Sex can still be satisfying but will be different from younger years, and might need to be adapted for current age, disability, illness, or surgery-induced body changes.Older adults are more vulnerable to sexually transmitted infections (STIs) than younger adults. Know your partner’s sexual background before having oral, vaginal, or anal sex. Talk about your sexual histories, any past STIs, results of STI testing, and whether either of you has ever injected illegal drugs.Nine middle-aged men and women are sitting in a circle in a cluttered, colorful classroom in a church annex in Austin. Her husband, Eugene, sitting nearby, was raised in Spain and has handsome features and courtly manners. "Touch one of your hands with the other," she says. Tonight's class is one of 14 in the seven-month course, which is the result of an initiative of the Unitarian Universalist Association (UUA) and the United Church of Christ (UCC).Judith, the oldest, is an artist, and her long, curly gray hair is piled into a messy halo atop her head. "Feel the smoothness and roughness of all the various parts, the places where it's dry or moist." Some of the students close their eyes as they follow her instructions. Since 1998 the institutions have coproduced sex education materials for children ages 5 to 18; as church leadership reexamined the curricula, they noticed a need for age-appropriate material for grown-ups.
Effective treatments for vaginal dryness include over-the-counter moisturizers and lubricants, and prescription estrogen creams, tablets, and rings that you insert vaginally.
Finally, Eugene picks up a pen and writes down "first time had sex." The other men slowly begin to join in. Judith says the exercise made her realize that one huge thing she can't control about her sexuality is her fading looks. The women return her you're-out-of-your-mind look, so she explains: "When I was young, I'd see these older women and they just seemed as if they had confidence and were wise—and more comfortable in their skin. "I didn't get any mileage out of being cute when I was young.
Together they manage to write: "accidentally masturbated," "masturbated," "first time had sex," "prostate," and "Viagra." Tuttle calls time and invites the students to look at the timelines. "Like, I'm still looking at 40-year-old men," Judith says, "but they're not looking back." A few of the other women agree. I'm much more comfortable in my skin today than I was at 30, 25, 20, and definitely 15." "How? Maybe that's the positive side of not being cute or flirty at 20—when you don't get that attention at 45, you haven't lost anything." A little later, Judith admits that she can think of a few good things that result from getting older.
Many older adults are remaining or becoming sexually active.
This is because of better health among older adults, longer lifespans, more open attitudes toward sexuality, internet dating, and the availability of medications like Viagra and estrogen products.