Dating a recovering sex addict
There are things about your partner's sex life that you suspect they might be trying to keep secret from you. It is estimated that 12 million people have some form of sex addiction in the U. When a sex addict cheats, or indulges in their fantasies, they are dosing their brain with dopamine and other chemicals that excite, distract, and otherwise cover up the underlying distress or emptiness they suffer from.The sex addict's impulse is to cover the pain of feeling damaged inside with sex.This is not about you, no matter how much it affects your self-esteem.If someone is masturbating compulsively, it's because they can't stop, and might have a problem.
If you suspect them of doing something wrong, they will do their best to make it seem that they are innocent, even to the point of questioning your integrity or sanity for suspecting them.You've never felt closer to your partner; you fall into a deep sleep with a smile on your face.A half hour later, you wake up, and they're masturbating next to you in bed.Because of this, this list might reflect the experience male sex addicts have in heterosexual relationships — but of course, sex addiction does not just apply to men. So what do you do if your partner is exhibiting three or more of these signs? Talking through your suspicions is the only way to find out. But with a sex addict, the cheating is pretty much nonstop.At my worst, I was carrying on three or four relationships at once outside of my primary partnership.They almost always feel very guilty and ashamed of their behavior.I should know: I spent most of my life acting in sexually addictive and compulsive ways.Sure, they are good in bed, but they need to be in charge the whole time.You may end up feeling that you're less their sex partner than someone being led around and controlled.If you suspect your partner of cheating, you're probably right.It may be difficult, but confront them about it — it's the only way to begin to stop the cycle.