Dating a recovering sex addict
Maybe you’ve been hanging out for just a couple of weeks, or maybe it’s a long-term relationship. First things first: sex addiction isn’t just about loving sex.
You know that sometimes, you can be suspicious by nature, but lately, things just don’t seem right. The main symptoms of sex addiction include being unable to control sexual decision-making, failed attempts at stopping unwanted sexual behavior, and a pattern of negative consequences resulting from one's sex life, from anxiety to depression and legal problems.
They talk to the young woman behind the register when you shop. But for a sex addict, it's a way of getting off, and often, grooming potential partners.
If you suspect them of doing something wrong, they will do their best to make it seem that they are innocent, even to the point of questioning your integrity or sanity for suspecting them.
The sex addict's impulse is to cover the pain of feeling damaged inside with sex.
Sure, they are good in bed, but they need to be in charge the whole time.
You may end up feeling that you're less their sex partner than someone being led around and controlled.
Because of this, this list might reflect the experience male sex addicts have in heterosexual relationships — but of course, sex addiction does not just apply to men. So what do you do if your partner is exhibiting three or more of these signs? Talking through your suspicions is the only way to find out. But with a sex addict, the cheating is pretty much nonstop.
At my worst, I was carrying on three or four relationships at once outside of my primary partnership.