Dating after sex
Hell, these beliefs have been around since the Victorian era!
) roll your eyes, but we all know how persistent stigmas about sex and sexuality are.
Plenty of couples officially get together after they've done the deed on their first date, so sexing early on shouldn't be a barrier if you’re vibing with each other, and there's mutual consent.Scientists say it’s fairly common to feel a temporary loss of attraction for your other half after sex – admit it, these science guys are when it comes to finding excuses for being unaffectionate.This power-down is supposed to help the body realign itself and get back to a normal state so you’re not lost in post-coital bliss and neglecting your duties – which is a very "science from the back of a shampoo bottle" way to say it's fine to want to wander off and play Fortnite before the wet patch is dry. ” you can message them later, after hours of their not returning your calls. I think I’d agree to marry/hand over all my passwords to/rob a bank for anyone who, straight after doing it, turned to me, waggled their mobile phone in my face and said, "Shall I order a pizza?"As euphoric as the post-coital period can be, that miserable buzzkill hormone prolactin is waiting in the wings to bring you down from that high.The adrenaline subsides, your breathing returns to normal, you’ve both been in the animalistic throes of passion – but now you’re yourselves again. Feedback is important for most things – if constructive it can guarantee you a good time, every time.Don’t be afraid to say what you liked, or would like to try next time.Don’t bolt out the door straightaway, though: you’ll need to recharge slightly to ensure you can do a full workout. You’re sucking a pen, which belches sickly fragrant steam into the atmosphere, lingering like a bad joke in a best man’s speech. Y'know, eventually, someone you have sex with is going to expect this. Perhaps you are anxious to remain welded to the skin of another, trying to block out your churning gut as the post-coital perspiration between you sours like yoghurt left out in the sun. You’re in the right place, there’s nothing on TV, you’ve already got your kit off and you probably couldn’t smell any worse. What better time to talk than seconds after climaxing?You will also need to explain to your partner that you’re off to the gym and not settling down for cuddles, so good luck with that one. In movies it always look very glamorous, but movies are movies and your bedroom is not. For a fuller experience, draw them even nearer and try to remain perfectly still as their hair burrows into your nostrils and gives you that scratchy grass pollen thrill, their heartbeat thudding against your own. In no way will your brain be fizzling like a glass of Coca-Cola on top of a tumble dryer. Maybe keep it light, avoiding any big pronouncements. One subject suited to a post-nut glow is your dreams and aspirations – the perfect licence to talk yourself up.Hormones such as prolactin and oxytocin get the blame, along with the bold claim men's brains actually reboot during orgasm, but the trouble is, no matter how hardwired into your biology falling asleep after sex is, you should try to stay awake.If you fall asleep before your partner, you look like a selfish lover, so you should wait for them to drop off first.