Dating sex tip
And while we’d go out to shows and bars together, we agreed that we'd hang just as friends. He’d sing me Johnny Cash songs in a thick southern accent.
He hung all of the shelves in my apartment, cooked me chicken and dumplings from scratch, and, real talk, was some of the best sex I’ve ever had. One day, Will told me that he’d met someone he was interested in pursuing seriously, but that he’d end things with her if I wanted to take our relationship to the next level.
Luckily, I eventually realized that there's no "right" way to date, and that I need to find happiness within myself, no partner needed.
I don’t know if it’s because I watched too many rom-coms growing up or if I’m just wired to DTR the moment a dude double-texts me, but casual dating is not something I’ve ever learned how to do.
They’d told me exactly what they wanted in a relationship — to not be in one, basically — and they stuck to their guns.But it also opened my eyes to one pretty amazing fact: Casual sex can be a lot of fun if both parties are on board.Will knew that I was never going to change my mind when it came to a relationship with him, so he gracefully exited the situation instead of trying to change it.It was my first experience with casual sex like that — and I was surprised by how into it I was.After my usual pattern had failed to land me a rom-com boyfriend, I’d decided to go in the opposite direction by taking a dating hiatus.By projecting my own desires onto our situation rather than hearing and respecting what they had told me at the start, I was setting myself up for heartbreak. The problem wasn’t casual sex, or the fact that it’s what they wanted.The problem was me, and denial (and maybe rom-coms).So, no — Will and I didn’t eventually fall in love.But we did start sleeping together casually again when we're both single, and he’s actually become a great friend.As much as I liked Will, I knew that there were a lot of ways in which we’d never work as a couple.The passion that made our sex so good also meant we bickered regularly.