New rules for love sex and dating
Andy and his wife, Sandra, have three grown children and live near Atlanta. But in the end, regardless of how many potential right candidates there are, one and only one is chosen. As of the writing of this book, it appears that five contestants chose well. I assume you don't take your relationship cues from script writers and authors. While most everybody has a mental list of what makes the right person the right person, most people abandon their lists for physical attraction and chemistry. While instant chemistry is common, instant chemistry that dovetails into an instantly healthy relationship with until-death-do-us-part potential is not. But before marriage, a lack of objectivity is dangerous.
CHAPTER 1THE RIGHT PERSON MYTHAt the center of every great love story are two people who are right for each other, destined to be together. Three hundred pages or a hundred and twenty minutes later they've figured out what we knew all along, leaving us entertained and, in some cases, inspired by their story. In the case of these two reality Tv shows, we don't know who's right for whom until the end. But it's possible you've embraced the underlying premise that holds these story lines and episodes together. A good many divorced men and women had already located right person 2.0 while in the process of divorcing right person 1.0. You may not believe there's one right person for you, but you are looking for the right person. When you're physically attracted to someone and there's that extra something we will refer to as chemistry, it just feels right, doesn't it? Show me a couple who are attracted to each other and share that certain something, and I'll show you a couple convinced they are right for each other. Sex distorts positive and negative traits in a partner.
This is the most troublesome part of Stanley’s book.
Today, NPM consists of six churches in the Atlanta area and a network of more than 90 churches around the globe that collectively serve nearly 185,000 people weekly. Problem is, we don't hear much about the more side of the relational equation. There are a number of factors, among them beauty, talent, confidence, intelligence, depth, wit, family, wealth, weight, height, career, and personality. But at the end of the day, our lists are not the deciding factors, are they? But as I'm fond of saying, falling in love is easy; it requires a pulse. When a relationship feels right, it's a powerful thing. It's no wonder that the righter a relationship feels, the quicker we are tempted to take things further. Not only is sex not the litmus test for relational compatibility, it actually inhibits and distracts from relational development. Because sex has the capacity to camouflage an endless list of relational deficiencies and dysfunctions.
As host of Your Move with Andy Stanley, which delivers over seven million messages each month through television and podcasts, and author of more than 20 books, including The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating; Ask It; How to Be Rich; Deep & Wide; and Irresistible, he is considered one of the most influential pastors in America. I say "hopefully" because every hardcore B' and B'ette fan scans the Internet for weeks following that final episode to see who was right after all. I realize that you realize movies, reality Tv, and novels don't reflect real life. In the end it comes down to two things (actually maybe one thing, but for the sake of clarity I'll keep them separate): chemistry and attraction. But I doubt there are too many fifteen-year-olds reading this. romance overpowers objectivity, which will work to your advantage in marriage.
He and his wife, Sandra, have two sons and a daughter.
Stu Gray has spent most of his life communicating, speaking, and entertaining people.