Real adult dating
The beauty of dating a real adult is it can teach us a little about balance.
If we can withstand the insecurities that surface in our party girl brains, if we don't push them away in our typical avoiding fashion, we might actually learn the beauty of an occasional night in.
So what happens when the quintessential party girl finds herself falling for a living, breathing grown-up? It's a fascinating-yet-terrifying experience that unexpectedly holds a mirror up to our reckless lives.
As chronic avoiders, we're just not used to seeing things as they are.
Or maybe it's because you paired your prim collared shirt with blazingly sexual dark red lipstick and torn tights? It's because your pictures make it look like you’re perpetually buzzed in faux fur, constantly clutching a half-smoked cigarette (which may or may not be true).You can hardly pay your rent on time; you live in dire fear of the credit card decline, yet you have more sparkly eye shadow than David Bowie did in his prime.In fact, you're so in love with your sparkly eye shadow that you are also starting to realize you don't ever really take it off...Your idea of a fully realized meal is a protein bar and two sugar-free Red Bulls.Suddenly, you are shackled with the fear that you're really unhealthy -- I mean, how are you even alive? Real people have 401ks, and you STILL haven’t figured out what that is.Nothing strikes the fear of God into a party girl like the following question from her adult lover: "When do I get to meet your friends? Isn't that why the temporary instant debit card was created? The absolutely insane texts you get on a regular basis from your friends don't always reflect so kindly on you.Oh yes, you just ADORE a lovely cozy evening in on a Saturday night. Real life example: "Happy Sunday, I just took mushrooms! "You're a little too comfortable in those handcuffs.Suddenly, you are questioning your behavior like never before.This new, healthy adult figure in your life is revealing just how toxic your lifestyle might be.The sudden presence of a real adult in our worlds puts a tiny pinprick in the shiny pink balloon we call home.Suddenly, reality crystallizes into our frame of vision.