Talking about sex while dating
Titus 2:3-5 “Older women likewise are to exhibit behavior fitting for those who are holy, not slandering, not slaves to excessive drinking, but teaching what is good. She sees that her profits are good, and her lamp never goes out at night.On a recent date, I told the guy I’m not looking to dive into a sexual relationship.I loved that sex wasn’t the reason he was with me, that sex wasn’t the goal of dating. But back then I somehow had it in my head that the way to find a good partner was to find someone who didn’t want sex. We’re taught that it’s our job to protect ourselves from men’s desires. And now I was in a four-year-long relationship with a man who was perfectly content watching a movie, having a conversation or cuddling instead.
She is not afraid for her household when it snows, for all in her household are doubly clothed. She makes and sells linen garments; she delivers belts to the merchants. Her husband is known at the city gates, where he sits among the elders of the land. Don’t be unrealistic and be careful with expectations when it comes to marriage. She watches over the activities of her household and is never idle.”There might be some areas where you have to talk to them or God has to change about them, but once again the person should be godly. She opens her mouth with wisdom and loving instruction is on her tongue. Strength and honor are her clothing, and she can laugh at the time to come.You think you won’t want me, but by the time I’m through, you’ll be begging me for it.”Seriously? Our culture loves titillation, we love being reminded of sex, but as soon as someone is direct about it, suddenly everyone is uncomfortable.Or someone thinks that because you’re talking about it, you must want to bone them in the middle of the bar.It shows how Christ loved the church and laid down His life for her. No one besides the Lord will come before the person you are going to marry. You have to say no to everyone else when it comes to your spouse. Do you listen to His conviction or do you do what you want to do? Not only are you to lead each other by the way you live your life, but you have to worship together. Never entertain a relationship just to have something in the meantime.The world teaches that you are supposed to put your kids and your parents before your spouse. We are so quick to say I believe the Lord has given me this person. If the person is not Christian, then the Lord didn’t give you that person. Many people get into relationships and when they break up they find out that they were not really in love. In a relationship you both are going to learn from each other, but the woman takes the submissive role and the man takes the leadership role. Is he living in godliness and seeking to obey the Word? The last thing that I want to talk about is guarding your own heart. When you fail at guarding your heart, you start thinking “maybe she’s the one” or “maybe he’s the one.” Everyone that you see and meet becomes the potential “one.” This is dangerous because it can easily create pain and hurt if it doesn’t work out.