The affair site

Safe and discreet, a perfect solution for me." She decided it was a rational alternative to the disruption of divorce.

Eventually, she realized that beneath her anger was a desire for a man who would really recognize her, who could "see" her, as her father never did.

But she couldn't create a solution, nor figure out how to deal with her desire for revenge.

She knew that "getting back" at her husband wasn't going to produce empowerment or healing, but nevertheless began a disastrous affair.

Neither Bill nor Tina, his sister-in-law, looked seriously at the issues in their respective marriages or inter-locked families; or even how dangerous it was.

Postscript: One of their spouses eventually discovered the incriminating e-mails, and the family affair quickly turned into a family nightmare. Humans are experts at creating illusions for ourselves.